Side Chick”— a woman who is involved in a romantic or sexual relationship with someone who is already committed to another partner, seems to be becoming a common phenomenon and has generated a lot of conversations across the world. Some believe it has been helpful, while others consider it disastrous.
Yesterday on Atinka TV’s relationship program, Kisses and Roses, Jessie Adubea sat with deep thinkers for a very intriguing conversation on the effects of side chicks on marriages. One of the guests, Egya Dadie, CEO of the Egya Dadie Faith Healer & Herbal Centre, made a statement that sparked reactions.
According to him, “Side chicks have helped some marriages. If not, some men are dead by now.”
A bold statement — but one that opens a deep conversation about stress, emotional pressure, and the hidden cracks in many homes.
Egya Dadie wasn’t glorifying distractions or encouraging broken loyalty.
His point was this: Some men carry emotional stress, pressure, and unspoken burdens within their marriages.
➡️Some feel unseen.
➡️Some feel unheard.
➡️Some feel they have lost the friendship and softness they once enjoyed at home.
Instead of fixing the problems, they run outside for relief — not because it is right,
but because they are overwhelmed.
And according to Egya Dadie:
➡️ Those secret escapes have become emotional shock absorbers for some men.
➡️ They are using the wrong solutions for real problems.
➡️ And instead of addressing issues at home, they hide them outside.
But here is the deeper truth:
If you need an outsider to stay alive in your marriage, then the marriage needs healing — not hiding.
What We Must Learn
No marriage collapses in one day.
Cracks start small:
- Communication breaks
- Respect fades
- Affection disappears
- Pressure builds
- Silence replaces intimacy
When these cracks are ignored, one partner will look for comfort elsewhere —
not for pleasure, but for escape.
Egya Dadie’s statement reminds us:
➡️ People are hurting inside their marriages but pretending to be fine.
➡️ And temporary comfort doesn’t solve permanent problems.
Instead of running outside the home for emotional support, couples must:
- Talk honestly
- Rebuild friendship
- Seek counseling
- Address stress early
- Create safety, not pressure
Side chicks are not the solution.
Communication is.
Understanding is.
Healing is.
Because if someone needs an outsider to survive emotionally,
the marriage itself needs urgent attention.
Egya Dadie didn’t justify the behaviour —
he exposed the reality.
Marriages don’t fail because of outsiders.
They fail because of the silence inside.
